Sure you love your significant other and the kiddos and always will. When it comes to thinking about separate vacations it never sounds like a healthy thing to do. It could lead to problems in the marriage or relationship.
Many marriage counselors and relationship experts are saying actually its perfectly fine and encourage it in moderation. They are becoming more and more common and being referred to as Girl GetAways and Guys NightOuts. No Comment, my passion is to stay current , but I don’t know if I agree..
With today’s heavy schedules and family responsibilities everyone is due a bit of time to recharge their batteries or simply regroup mentally. The professionals are suggesting that it actually makes us a better person, and the absence gives us more appreation for what we’ve left behind. When one parent/your spouse is gone everyone misses you and is overjoyed when you return. When one spouse goes on a weekend getaway without the family, it’s a perfect time for the other spouse to bond with the kids. You know…it’s time to do the things with the kids that the other parent won’t allow. Of course we are talking about dad. “Ha Ha”
Sometimes when one spouse takes on a few more responsibilities they can become overwhelmed (mom) and just plain worn out. A getaway with the girls, or work groups, extended family, is a great way to take a breather and recharge.
On vacations with your family you often wind up compromising on activities you would enjoy for the sake of the kid’s requests. Separate vacations are the perfect opportunity to do exactly what you want. You may want a spa getaway mixed, possibly a shopping spree, deep sea fishing, hunting with the buds, just things you enjoy. Grab your BFF and hit the road for a few days.
In no way is anyone suggesting we replace the Family Vacation. This will always be a priority and so important for family bonding and creating priceless memories. We would however never suggest a separate vacation if there are issues in the marriage or relationship. If this is the case leaving the kids behind and spending one on one time may be the solution. Our kids bring us so much fun, laughter, joy, excitement and a whole lot of work. We often get so wrapped up in their lives that we forget about our spouses needs and often drift apart.
If you think the separate vacation conversation can ruffle a few feathers, the thought of leaving the kids behind if mom and dad want to vacation. This can even be more offensive to some families that were asked in recent surveys. Why not leave the kids behind and go somewhere together.The most common point they brought up was “They are only kids for such a short time, why would we want to miss out on special moments like family trips” No one can argue this. We are simply suggesting that mom and dad may need a break without even knowing. Some personal time may be just what they need to reestablish those magical feelings and romance that brought them together in the beginning. Or maybe just leave the kids and go together. I love this idea.
Here are a few ways to ease into ways to leave the kids without feeling guilty
You can start small with just an overnight at hotel downtown or a weekend getaway at a neighboring town or city.
Will you be nervous about leaving your kids? Yes.
Will your kids miss you? Probably for about the first 10 minutes.
Will everyone survive and end up having a great time anyway? Absolutely.
Do it for you.
Do it for your marriage.
Do it for your kids.
Happy Parents Equals Strong family